It’s difficult to believe that a 63-year-old grandmother of 16 could start out life as a drug-addicted, teen mother where domestic violence left her walking through life backwards, trying to avoid the whole thing.
Karen Denise shares her powerful testimony about domestic violence and how she found herself a battered teen mother, addicted to drugs and living in a violent relationship.
“I can’t remember the first time he put his hands on me” but she can recall the first time he hit her, “He was immediately apologetic.”
Back then, in the 70’s, no one talked about domestic violence.
That made things very confusing. A mixture of keeping secrets, wanting things to change and living in a time when your personal business stayed behind closed doors.
Karen said she was walking in two different worlds, going to work and acting like nothing was happening and coming home and dealing with brutality. She couldn’t talk to her family because back then there was no support like there is today.
The bottom line for Karen was when she found herself wasted all of the time and her boyfriend graduated from snorting Heroin to shooting Heroin and involved in criminal activity. One night he came in drunk and all hell broke loose. After a violent outburst, she left with nothing but the clothes on her back.
That was the beginning of a new life.
Ultimately you have to love yourself enough to say that you love someone, but you love yourself more and won’t allow things to continue- Faydra
Today, Karen, also known as Giggy to her 16 grandchildren, is a life coach, author and host of AskGiggy.com She LOVES to help people become published authors!
Here is some useful information to determine if you are living in an abusive relationship with domestic violence.
Common signs of an abusive relationship are if one or both partners:
- Prevents contact and communication with friends and family
- Controls money and important identification, such as driver’s licenses and passports
- Causes embarrassment with bad names and put-downs
- Critical about survivors appearance and/or behavior
- Attempts to control what partner wears
- Has unrealistic expectations, like partner being available at all times
- Threatens to take away or hurt the children
- Acts like abuse is not a big deal, or denies it’s happening
- Plays mind games to place blame on the survivor
- Destroys property or threatens to kill pets
- Intimidates with guns, knives or other weapons
- Shoves, slaps, chokes, hits or forces sexual acts
- Threatens to commit suicide
If you need help, you can call Women Organized to Make Abuse Nonexistent, Inc TOLL-FREE 1-415-864-4722
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