American’s are having a historical reaction to the 2016 Presidential election. The division caused by President-elect Trump is unlike any this country has ever seen and it is causing a mental health problem in America.
As a crisis management expert, I am called to work with individuals and corporations going through difficult times. Today, it seems the nation is laying on the floor like Veruca Salt tantruming like a spoiled child or hiding in the corner like a beaten puppy who hears the footsteps of a maniacal owner down the hall.
Dean Deguara, Pastor at Jesus Culture Sacramento and I spent time chatting about the election and what everyday American’s can do to cope after the election of Donald Trump. The truth is, there are three things going on- people rejoicing, people in fear and people who are disconnected or apathetic to it all.
The situation, Trump’s win, is the same, and yet, there is more than one way people are reacting to it, so which is the true reality?
What happens when a nation is in crisis? What can be done to stop the social vigilantism and the mob mentality? Who is right, who is wrong? Is there a difference between protesting and throwing a tantrum? Is taking an outlandish stand brave or brash?
“Some things you just don’t want to talk about- politics and Jesus” and yet, we need Jesus in the midst of this political upheaval.
Dean and I explore why people are so mad and what can be done to stop the roll.
- Active Listening
- Ignore baiting on social media
- Ask questions and engage in a meaningful conversation
- Take a break from all media if you can’t remain calm
We both agree that you can’t change what is happening nationally, but there are things you can do locally. We call it the One Degree. You can’t stop hoards from protesting or engaging on a huge level, but you can affect the mindset and the wisdom of your household or the people in your sphere of influence. You can talk with your kids, your co-workers or the people you are influential with and create a pathway to share concerns, process the what if’s and work through your feelings.
Care should be given to allow people to go through the grief and loss of what they hoped would be the outcome and don’t try to force people into acceptance before they are ready.
An important aspect of our conversation was discussing the reaction from Millennials and how they are influencing the nation. As colleges cancel mid-term exams and offer therapy dogs and hot cocoa, are they coddling young adults who need to learn coping skills? Discover our take and see if you agree.
The bottom line for Dean and I comes from a place of love. A place of building bridges, not walls~ Including one between America and Mexico. There is nothing to be gained by engaging with chaotic people who are operating from a place of fear. The best thing that can be done is to allow space and time to develop. When Barrack Obama was elected, a similar and yet, not so crazy, belief that all hope would soon be lost erupted. Here we are, eight years later facing change.
If you are feeling the effects of the presidential election in a negative way, I loved Dean’s advice…
“Watch the leaders”
Men and women who have faced adversity and come through the fire. Men and women like I host on this show every week. I have said for the nearly year that the podcast has been live, it isn’t a matter of if crisis is going to come into your lives, it is a matter of when.
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One of the issues at hand is the realization that we have a growing number of people who feel entitled to expect accommodations in the wake of their worries, fears, and anger. This wave of me VS we is alarming and should be a warning sign that maturity is an issue. Never before in history can I recall a time when our nation required such hand-holding to manage change. Even after 911, the Boston Marathon bombing and mass shootings across America, people were still attending classes and going to work despite the biggest attacks on American soil in history.
Why is this different?
My fear is that we are teaching our youngest American’s and future leaders that when bad things happen, they must look for others to make it better. That is not maturity, that is dependency, and abdicating your power in the worst possible way.
One thing I know for certain, it is through adversity that great things happen. My show has proven this time and again. When people face change, loss, upheaval, and chaos, they have the opportunity to become something bigger and better than they might have been without prompting. The seasoned veterans of the hard-knock life realize that we are on the springboard for amazing things. We can expect to see leaders from the opposition rise up and champion. We have the possibility of seeing someone whom nobody seems to support, show up powerfully and prove them all wrong. Anything is possible at this point.
If you are hurting and need a safe place, now is the time to consider therapy, coaching, digging into the vast self-help opportunities that exist. One of the books Dean recommends is The Entitlement Cure